On the Inclusion of a 5th Horseman
This blog discusses the potential inclusion of a 5th horseman: a lack of generous assumptions in the relationship, and an antidote of utilizing curiosity and open-ended questions.
Trans Day of Visibility: The 6 Genders of Judaism
Happy TDOV! The blog discusses the notion of diverse genders is an ancient one.
“I can't help to take away the pain, but I will hold your hand:” Validations in Couples and Family Therapy
I explain the importance of validating statements in couples and family therapy.
Gottman Couples Therapy: an Overview
I explain the “Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse” and their antidotes. Gottman couples therapy is helpful because it is about taking actionable steps to change.
The link between Gender Diversity and other forms of Neurodiversity
Neurodiversity reinforces my belief that gender diverse people are unique, special, and critical thinkers.
On the importance of generous assumptions in couples/family therapy
The importance of reframing in couples/family therapy, giving generous assumptions, and replacing dynamics with a more positive feedback loop.
Musings on sibling violence/abuse
Thoughts on sibling violence/abuse. This blog focuses on best approaches for parents when dealing with this issue, as well as the ramifications of not appropriately dealing with this within families. I was compelled to write this piece because I find many clients minimize the effects of this issue. Sibling violence is very normalized in our society, yet I believe it is directly correlated to lacking in conflict resolution skills as an adult.
Thoughts on Murray Bowen and Family Systems Theory
I explain family systems theory, and a little bit about Murray Bowen and who he was. Thinking systemically and relationally is so important in our work!